February 2021 (released 2/2/21)
9: Get Back on Track With These 2 Quick Tips
When we get angry or discouraged, we often feel it in our body. And if we don’t have a way to quickly discharge those negative feelings, they can take root and grow inside of us. When they spread and take over our mood and thoughts, they can keep us from thinking effectively and feeling happy.
What if you had easy, simple, and always available tools that you knew would help you release anger and resentment more quickly? Then you could choose to use these tools to let go of the anger and frustration so that you felt like yourself again. You could get back on track and focus on all of the good in the world around you.
In this episode, Deb shares two powerful breathing and body tools and the science behind them. These tools will help you get on top of your emotions, so that your emotions don’t get the best of you. They’ll help you feel more in control of your emotions and your thinking.
If you’re ready to more forward, see the positive, and feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions, press the play button now.
Bonus Interview Episode: Erin Wright
Meet End of Life Coach, Erin Wright, Founder of Dying Well
Talking about death can seem morbid and scary. If you’re like me, you might not know where or when to start having conversations about the end of life. And, yet, these conversations are crucial and can really help ease a loved one’s passing. Enter Erin Wright, former nurse and hospice worker, and end of life coach. In addition to working with individuals and their families to help them create intentional death plans that honor last wishes, Erin is on a mission to train other coaches who are drawn to this type of work. In this bonus episode, Deb and Erin have a very real conversation about death, the importance of not leaving things undone, and what we can all do now to put plans in place for the future.
8: To Sound Confident, Avoid Using These Phrases
Confidence is key for our personal and professional development. When we feel confident, we can speak up, ask for what we want, and state our point of view. And, yet, there are subtle phrases and words that many of us say without even realizing that they can undermine how we think about ourselves and how we are perceived by others.
What if you were aware of and eliminated those disempowering phrases from your vocabulary? What if you used more confident and powerful phrases that conveyed that you do know, you are capable, and you do bring value? You would you feel more empowered, and others would view you in a different light – you’d be seen as more of a leader.
In this episode, Deb shares those key phrases we should avoid using when we want to sound confident, capable, and knowledgeable. She shares concrete examples illustrating the difference between using these hedging phrases and more powerful ones.
If you are ready to give others the impression that you know your stuff and you do own your strengths, press the play button now.
Bonus Interview Episode: Linda Lombardo
Meet Forest Therapy Guide, Linda Lombardo, Founder of Wild Heart Nature Connection
Many of us intuitively feel calmer and happier when we connect with nature, whether walking in the forest, sitting at the beach, or hiking in the mountains. Forest therapy guide Linda Lombardo, founder of Wild Heart Nature Connection, takes it one step further -- she uses forests and nature in her coaching. Taking people in the woods on walks, she helps them get grounded and reflect on their lives, so they can shift how the think and feel. In this episode, Linda and I discuss the power of nature and forests, and why it's so important to build some connection with nature into our lives.
7: How to Connect to What Matters Most to You
Feeling connected to our true selves and what matters most to us can make us feel purposeful, give us peace of mind, and remind us that we're living a meaningful life. On the other hand, when we are not able to honor what matters most to us, we might feel disconnected and frustrated. We might wonder, “How can I live the life meant for me?”
What if you had a tool to connect to the real you and help you identify what matters most? Knowing what you stand for and honoring your values in your life will move you from feeling disconnected to connected, from feeling aimless to purposeful.
In this episode, Deb dives into the concept of core values. She discusses the importance of recognizing and connecting to core values, and she guides listeners through a visioning activity to recall a peak life experience. She then moves from values to action with guidance about how to start living values that you've been neglecting.
If you have felt disconnected with happiness recently, it's time to press the play button to reconnect with the real you, your values, and your joy.
Bonus Interview Episode: Barb Korosec
Meet Equine Leadership Coach, Barb Korosec, founder of Full Span Leadership.
If you’re like me, you are in your head most of the time. We are always thinking, caught up in our thoughts, ideas, and plans. We forget to be in the present moment, to be aware of our bodies, and how we are showing up to the others in the moment and in our life. Believe it or not, that’s where feedback from horses can be helpful. Equine-facilitated coaching – coaching leaders using horses – is an opportunity to be in the moment, recognize how we show up, and how we impact others.
In this bonus interview episode, Deb interviews equine leadership coach and horse lover Barb Korosec. Barb describes how horses give us powerful feedback about our presence, our leadership, and our boundaries – without even saying a word.
If you’re curious to hear more about the wisdom of horses and what they can help you understand about yourself, press the play button now.
6: To Tackle Stress, Start with These Two Questions
Almost everyone I talk with wants to feel more hopeful, happy, and calm. We want to feel like we’re navigating uncertainty, moving forward, and creating the life that's most important to us. Yet, the thing that has the potential to undermine our happiness, productivity, and certainty is stress. Stress is worry, anger, or overwhelm that gets in our way and undermines how we think, feel, and act.
What if you had a way to deal with stress easily and calmly? What if you knew how to look stress squarely in the face and say, I see you, AND I know how to deal with you? Knowing how to coach yourself to start tackling stress would put you back in the driver’s seat of your life.
In this episode, Deb shares two powerful stress-busting questions that you can ask and answer to shift your thinking immediately from "there's nothing I can do" to seeing your way forward. Deb shares personal and professional examples to show how to use these questions in your life. Bringing these questions to your mental mindset will help you feel more empowered.
If you want to take back some of your control over the stress and pressures on you, grab a paper and pen and click on the link below now.
Bonus Interview Episode: Anna Kaufman
Meet Chief Badass, Anna Kaufman, Founder of Speak Like a Badass
Public speaking scares many of us, although the truth is that we are always speaking – at work, with family and friends, and to ourselves. In this bonus interview episode, Deb interviews public speaking coach and owner of Speak Like a Badass Anna Kaufman, who believes that we all have an inner badass.
Deb and Anna discuss how we can start feeling more empowered around public speaking, the importance of setting our intentions about how we show up in the world, and what a badass birthday month celebration is.
If you are curious about uncovering your inner badass, and how to get started building your public speaking confidence, click the link below.
5: The One Word You Need to Stop Using
Overwhelming situations that we categorize as a “struggle” can undermine our power, our confidence, and our problem-solving abilities. Struggles keep us stuck.
And it’s no surprise they do – because that word makes our brain see a situation as one with no way out. After all, our brain is only following the flow of our thoughts and self-talk.
But what if you could guide your brain to re-categorize a struggle into a situation that you can see differently? What if you gave your brain an advantage in figuring out what to say and do? Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum knows how to help you help your brain – and it all starts by re-naming your struggles.
Listen in to this episode as Deb shares one client’s story and suggestions for alternative phrases and words you can use to start changing your struggles into a solvable situation.
Deb gets right to the point. Her clear and encouraging advice will help you start making changes in your thinking today. Because when you think differently, anything is possible. Listen in to learn what’s possible for you, in your life, right now.
4. How to stop analysis paralysis
Trying to make a decision when we don’t have all the information we need can muddle our thinking and cause analysis paralysis. These times of uncertainty are especially hard because we want to do things right and make the right decision, and we don’t know exactly what that might be. And others might be looking at you to lead the way and set the agenda, and you want to show confidence, even if you don’t feel it.
What if you had a plan for navigating uncertainty with more clarity and confidence? What if you were able to eliminate the negative self-talk in your brain telling you that you’d better not fail? Moving quickly from “I don’t know” to “I’ve got this” is do-able and possible.
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares the 4 steps that can take you from analysis paralysis to clarity and decisiveness. She walks you through each step one at a time, with examples and explanation, so you can easily apply this strategy to the uncertainty in your life. These steps involve clearing the chatter from your brain, reframing your questions, and setting an intention about how you want to show up. Using this approach to navigating change can help you feel calmer, make decisions more easily, and communicate more confidently.
If you are ready to get your brain out of its mental spinning and paralysis so that you can make some decisions and move forward, click the link below.
3: The Most Effective Happiness Hack
When we feel stress, our brains can get caught up in our worries and frustrations. It can feel like we’re caught in a downward spiral of negativity, and we can’t break free. And here’s what you need to know about these times: our thoughts don’t actually have a will of their own. Our thoughts are waiting for us to direct them and tell them where to go.
What if you knew how to redirect your thinking and flip that switch in your brain, to shift from anger to peace of mind so that you immediately felt calmer and happier? What if you had a tool you could use not only for yourself, but also with your colleagues, friends, and family? Flipping the switch from negative to positive thinking happens most quickly with one mindset tool: the practice of gratitude.
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses gratitude -- what it is, what research has shown, and how you can practice it at home and at work. She shares examples of how to practice gratitude, as well as the personal situation that prompted this episode. Focusing on gratitude can help you change your perspective to appreciate the good in your life, even in the midst of challenges.
If you are ready to empower yourself with a brain tool that can shift your brain and the brains of those around you, listen in now.
2: The Two Things That Keep Us From Trusting Ourselves
We all have intuition – those feelings where we just know something in our heart or our gut. And when we can listen to our intuition and give it a voice in on our decision making, we often make decisions that feel better and are more in line with who we are and what matters most to us.
And yet, we all have times when the busy-ness of our lives keeps us from listening to the wisdom of our body – when we forget to incorporate the knowing of our inner wisdom.
What if you understood what gets in the way of trusting yourself more? What if you knew the neuroscience behind listening to your gut? And what if you had a way to trust yourself and feel more confident about the decisions you were weighing? Making decisions in a way that intentionally honors your integrity and authenticity involves listening to your brain, as well as to your heart and gut.
Listen in to this episode as Deb discusses our intuition – why it’s important and why we can trust it when we make decisions. She’ll share a story about a time she ignored her intuition, and give you suggestions so you don’t make that same mistake.
Deb’s honesty and encouragement will help you feel more empowered as you think about what's next for you.
1: One Simple Way to Move From Stuck to Solution: Reframing the Nots
Spending too much time thinking about what we do not want keeps us from being able to identify what it is exactly that we do want, and how we do want to feel and travel through life.
And we all have a tendency to think in this way – because it’s easy to look back and see the negative.
But what if you could catch your negative thinking, and knew how to quickly shift the direction of your thoughts to move you forward to what you actually DO want in life, and who you DO want to be? What would be possible then? Gently showing you your automatic thoughts and helping you re-frame them is Life and Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum’s superpower.
Listen in to this episode as Deb shares lots of examples of unhelpful thinking, how it keeps you in the wrong place, and how you can make new brain pathways to get moving in the right direction.
The tips and tools that Deb shares will move you from stuck to solution, and you’ll never think the same way again.