This line comes from the Dr. Seuss book “Marvin K. Mooney Will You Please Go Now!” In the book, the author exhorts Marvin K. Mooney to leave the room and suggests many ways he can do this. At the end of the book, we see Marvin go — but only when he is ready.
Just like Marvin, when we think about making a change in life, we have to decide when it’s time for us. We have to decide when to say “enough!” Whether it’s a job that is ulcer-inducing, a relationship that both parties know is over, or a life that feels constricting and confining — we each have to choose for ourselves when the time has come to make a change.
Clients come to me because they are thinking about making a change. Here are some questions I ask them to gauge where they are at:
What are you wanting?
We talk about their vision, and how their job, relationship, or personal growth would be if it were a 10 out of 10, instead of a 3 out of 10. We all have big dreams, but we rarely take the time to stop and imagine them. Thinking about what we truly want is helpful to start uncovering our values and priorities.
What’s the cost to you if you don’t make this change?
People usually respond quickly and say something like, “It would feel bad.” It’s important to really think about this question, though. For example, what is the impact on your friends and family if you stay in a job that makes you miserable? What is the impact on your future customers and clients if you do not launch your business or hang out your shingle?
What would have to change in you for you to take the next step?
When we think about making change, we often think of to-do lists and tasks that would need to be accomplished. But without changes in how we think about ourselves and act, our to-do lists are likely to sit untouched.
To create change, we need to believe that change is possible, and we need to believe in ourselves. Then, just like Marvin K. Mooney, we get to choose how we start this journey.